Your Magnetic Personality
There is a magnet in your heart that will attract true friends. That magnet is unselfishness, thinking of others first; when you learn to live for others, they will live for you." Paramahansa Yoganand
(What I first thought would be an interesting, easy-ride essay about magnets and relational attraction turned out to be a wrestling match with a bear! Having not fully thought through what I was about to discuss, I ran into an episode of cognitive dissonance. I was thinking magnets attract, people attract. But. Magnets attract their polar opposite. People mainly attract, as in “like attracts like.” My clever analogy was shattered. My ideas, now mangled and twisted, struggled to make sense of this clash. After all, cognitive dissonance is the skill of holding two opposing thoughts simultaneously and making sense of both. I researched until I remembered that people are not just attracted on a physical level but also on a spirit/soul level. Magnets will always exhibit the same properties, but people are not magnets. That is the way I thought myself out of my conundrum. Now, please excuse me while I try to salvage what I have previously spent hours typing out.)
When I was a child, every now and then, a set of magnets showed up in our home, usually brought in by my father. My sibs and I took turns experimenting with what things we could do with their invisible power. Either they pulled toward each other or pushed away from each other. If the magnetic force were strong enough, we would try and try to get the poles that opposed each other to touch, only to have them slip past each other!
Our Universe is full of dynamic magnetic forces keeping our reality under control. How do magnets work? Here are two charts that explain the magnetic mystery:
The top chart explains that magnetic behavior begins at the atomic level. The bottom chart illustrates magnetic attraction and repelling. The very happy (and smiling) magnet reminds us that opposites attract- a phrase we use to describe a pair of people that don’t look like they belong together. Like Mutt and Jeff! They look oddly unmatched, but they are friends. But, because of their differences, they could “make beautiful music together!” Attraction can exist between people who “look” different because their inner, spiritual selves align, allowing that “like attracts like.”
“Attraction,” ‘attracted to,” and “attractive” are all phrases we commonly use to describe favorable relationships.
Attraction between people works best in an ether of positivity. This is true for any relationship- marital, romantic, friendship, parent-child, child-child, worker-boss, and so on. What we think and project for ourselves makes us more aware of when a compatible person enters our life. It cannot be stated strongly enough how important it is to keep your heart and mind in a positive place because it IS true that “like attracts like.”
One common belief is called “the law of attraction.” Whatever energy you send out attracts similar energy. Whatever words you speak (because you have to think about them first) attract negative results in your life or positive results in your life. Your inner state of being usual affects the outer presentation of your true self.
Another belief is that living gratefully and graciously will ensure that your needs are met. Give up wanting more and, with humble appreciation, be content with what you have.
Another belief is living a life of positivity. If you live a positive life, people will want to know you. Interestingly, they will be attracted because of their own positivity. Positivity squared equals a dynamic relationship. Like attracts like. Shannon L. Adler, “When you are joyful, when you say yes to life and have fun and project positivity all around you, you become a sun in the center of every constellation, and people want to be near you.”
Philippians 4:8: “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
When we live a life of godly intention and honor, we will attract those people. As I explained, not like a magnet, but like spirit-filled people!
“Let’s all breathe. Shall we?”